Comments on: The bridge http://www.prowomanprolife.org/2009/10/03/the-bridge/ Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:47:42 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Marysia http://www.prowomanprolife.org/2009/10/03/the-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-4292 Marysia Mon, 05 Oct 2009 16:10:34 +0000 http://www.prowomanprolife.org/?p=7119#comment-4292 Vilar's mother was forcibly sterilized. Voluntary sterilization can be a blessing, but having it foisted upon you is an act of profound, life-shattering violence. Vilar grew up in a family atmosphere poisoned by this act of violence. Abortion often needs to be considered in a multigenerational perspective, as part of a cycle of violence. So please no one be so quick to judge her...even as there are 15 spirits that didn't get to be born in this world. Vilar’s mother was forcibly sterilized. Voluntary sterilization can be a blessing, but having it foisted upon you is an act of profound, life-shattering violence.

Vilar grew up in a family atmosphere poisoned by this act of violence. Abortion often needs to be considered in a multigenerational perspective, as part of a cycle of violence. So please no one be so quick to judge her…even as there are 15 spirits that didn’t get to be born in this world.

]]> By: Julie Culshaw http://www.prowomanprolife.org/2009/10/03/the-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-4285 Julie Culshaw Sat, 03 Oct 2009 16:39:53 +0000 http://www.prowomanprolife.org/?p=7119#comment-4285 A woman who had an abortion, and is now fully healed and helping others, told me that we have to consider the future babies. They have to develop in an environment where a killing has occurred. Perhaps you think that is too spiritual or beyond the realm of fact-checking, but consider whether you would purchase a home where someone had been murdered? A child has to grow and develop in a uterus where killing has occurred. Surely this place is not the place of safety that it should be for that child. And how do we know these children don't carry that "ghost" with them into their lives? Dr. Philip Ney has concluded from his work as a child psychiatrist, that they do in fact suffer from "survivor syndrome". A woman who had an abortion, and is now fully healed and helping others, told me that we have to consider the future babies. They have to develop in an environment where a killing has occurred. Perhaps you think that is too spiritual or beyond the realm of fact-checking, but consider whether you would purchase a home where someone had been murdered?

A child has to grow and develop in a uterus where killing has occurred. Surely this place is not the place of safety that it should be for that child. And how do we know these children don’t carry that “ghost” with them into their lives? Dr. Philip Ney has concluded from his work as a child psychiatrist, that they do in fact suffer from “survivor syndrome”.

]]> By: Melissa http://www.prowomanprolife.org/2009/10/03/the-bridge/comment-page-1/#comment-4284 Melissa Sat, 03 Oct 2009 16:26:38 +0000 http://www.prowomanprolife.org/?p=7119#comment-4284 What jumped out at me from that story was Ms. Vilar's personal history. Her father and brothers suffered from addictions; her mother committed suicide. She couldn't have had an easy, stable upbringing. There are plenty of people out there who would say that it would be a mistake to bring a child into a home that is filled with these kinds of problems, that many of the people who emerge from these environments are not fit to be parents. But it seems to me that to counsel a woman who comes from these circumstances is to add another hurt to an already-large pile of pain. I don't know what the answer is , but Andrea's axiom "we don't kill to solve our problems" seems to apply. What jumped out at me from that story was Ms. Vilar’s personal history. Her father and brothers suffered from addictions; her mother committed suicide. She couldn’t have had an easy, stable upbringing.

There are plenty of people out there who would say that it would be a mistake to bring a child into a home that is filled with these kinds of problems, that many of the people who emerge from these environments are not fit to be parents.

But it seems to me that to counsel a woman who comes from these circumstances is to add another hurt to an already-large pile of pain. I don’t know what the answer is , but Andrea’s axiom “we don’t kill to solve our problems” seems to apply.

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