Poignant. I am weary of those who would say a fetus is not a baby is not a person. Duh. But this is what, given time and growth, they become. (And if your answer is no, I don’t, then fine, so be it. Many others do.)
Nonetheless, I still say it should be made over the counter:
All this said, yes, please do make the Pill over the counter. Perhaps when it sits beside Tylenol on a drugstore shelf, advocacy groups will stop yammering on about how the Pill is a major component of women’s rights. Or that it is patronizing when doctors show concern. Perhaps then we will stop targeting excellent doctors who won’t prescribe it for very good reasons.
Which gets interpreted by Huff Post commentators as meaning I want to reduce access to all contraception. If you are pro-woman and pro-life, please feel free to leave a reasonable comment, for or against the Pill (so that Huff Post folks can misinterpret and distort what you say, sigh.)
The abortion debate really need not be a battle between the right and the left. The lot of us agree on human rights, and a segment of the population believes human rights should begin when human life begins. Polls show that most Canadians, both those who situate themselves on the right and the left, want restrictions on abortion access in Canada. I think we have more in common than not.
This writer shares that her mother found herself pregnant in college and that…
Given the information she had at the time, given the fact that she was so close to finishing school, and given MY secular, liberal worldview… I have no doubt at all that if I had been my mother, there would have been no me.
Something to consider, isn’t it? Yet the writer seems to remain pro-choice.
I am 39 and I have no children. I have never been asked why. I have never been asked whether I want children. I have frankly never been engaged in any discussion of my childless state unless it is with close friends.
That’s why this article is surprising to me. Magenta Baribeau, childless by choice, is clearly travelling in different, less sensitive circles. I don’t think “why don’t you want children” or the like are questions to be asking people you only know for 22 seconds, as she puts it.
Could it be that she is courting the questions by making her decision not to have children into an ideological movement?
Could it be that people intuitively know “some things are not a choice” (one of my most favourite pro-life slogans) and balk at a confident assertion that they are?
Some women have children. Others don’t. You’ll have a hard time convincing me that in our era of below-replacement fertility, it’s a brave and bold thing to not have children. Lots of people don’t.
Furthermore, we tend in life to regret the things we haven’t done, not the things we do, which either are positive or, if negative, we morph into learning experiences. Outside the contentious area of having children this remains true.
So strictly speaking, whoever is telling her she might regret it some day could be right. The same way you might regret not trying a new job, or not dating a particular guy who in hindsight seemed great, or not taking up an offer to try anything new.
It’s not terribly judgmental to say so, and I maybe I can say that with more moral authority than someone with six children in their family van.
Anyways, that’s not the point of this post. Here’s the point: She clearly identifies that abortion is her backup birth control, should she ever get pregnant. If she and her partners aren’t consistently careful, someone has to die to maintain her childless state.
Q. Do you think that if you got pregnant, your opinion might change? Is that possible?
A. If I do get pregnant I will have an abortion. I’ve never had an abortion in my life, I’m very careful. So if the hormones would change my mind, I don’t know how that would affect me. But nothing in the world could happen to make me change my mind.
This is a controversial thing to point out. That abortion is now and has been for a while used as birth control. That’s what she is saying.
In general, it seems she wants everyone to applaud her for something that is mundane. We applaud the people who climb Mount Everest, not the people who prefer, like Hobbits, to eat tasty food in our warm living rooms, where it is perfectly safe. Don’t get me wrong. I love Bilbo Baggins with the best of them. Yet, I refuse to applaud her “movement.” No one must have children but there are limitations on that as a “right”–the limitation being that in seeking out a childless life, she can’t harm someone else (ie. in abortion). That’s the hard limitation on her worldview. If you are childless, no one has a problem. But when you make it into a lifestyle movement, you run up against common sense.
If you think the Pill is the end all and be all of contraception, you need to get with the times. Check in with some of the groups that are teaching women about their bodies without requiring them to take a hormone every day.
Left wing, right wing, Christian, atheist, there are better options than the Pill.
There are a lot of people who are confused about what it means to be Christian. It’s because there’s too many of us who go to the party and refuse to dance. (This is a five minute YouTube clip so please don’t subject it to a theological treatise. Just dance. It’s Sunday; Christians should dance.) (h/t)
Watch Stephanie Packer’s story. The principle for me and for her is the same: Life matters. It matters when we believe the quality is high, and it matters when we believe the quality is low. It matters when someone is suffering, yes. We aim to eradicate the suffering, not the person. Some people can’t see this, but stories like hers help.
As readers of this blog know, Kara Tippetts died a few months ago. Her husband, Jason, wrote a piece for the Washington Post explaining how his family was going to spend this first Mother’s Day without her. It’s a beautiful and poignant article.
This paragraph is with loaded with wisdom:
We will live in the reality of life instead of in our hidden expectations of how we want to be treated. I want my kids to enter into the celebration of this day, to remember the life their mom lived and the character traits she desired to foster in them: kindness, compassion and love. Our character develops when we are stretched, and this day will stretch us.
No one desires to experience hurt or face tragedy, but these experiences transform us. If we permit it, we can become better, stronger and more resilient as a result of them. We can become more compassionate and understanding. We may even experience joy, as Kara did, in the midst of heartbreak.
Moral inconsistencies are never better illustrated than in real life.
Check out these two stories, printed a day apart. In the one, we have Megan Huntsman charged with six counts of first degree murder and receiving a life sentence for each newborn child that she suffocated.
In the next story a day later, we have “Lisa” glibly discussing her four abortions thus;
With the first one, you don’t know what’s going to happen. You’re scared and anxious. But once you see all the other women there, it doesn’t make you feel that bad.
And it does get easier with the more you have. I know that sounds really bad, but that is just how it is.
Megan Huntsman killed her children because she had a drug addiction and didn’t want the responsibility of raising her children.
“Lisa” killed her children because each was fathered by a different man and she didn’t want the responsibility of raising her children.
One will go to jail and quite possibly never see the light of day again. Had she had her six children killed a few days earlier through an abortion procedure, FOR THE SAME REASONS we would never have known her name. Today she is a social pariah and a convicted felon.
Lisa on the other hand, will walk free. We will never know her real name because it has been protected, and she can carry on her life under the guise of anonymity, having more abortions if she so chooses.
The doctors who she had kill her four children will continue to dismember countless more and earn a great living doing so.
The only difference between these two mothers is that “Lisa” had the sense to have her children “terminated” through legal abortion. She played the game right.
There you have the great injustice and the horror of legal abortion, and the schizophrenia of a socially constructed “right” that is vehemently and aggressively defended, while violating everything that is decent about life.