I saw Mona Charen speak once and was impressed. I know I’m all Weinsteined out at this point, but I think her article, which makes a call for the Me Too hashtag to be replaced with Be Decent, is worth showcasing. Particularly this paragraph:
For decades feminists have made abortion the signature feminist issue — thus signaling that consequence-free sex for men (who don’t undergo the surgery and heartbreak) was a key goal. Feminists may not have intended to thereby send the message that they were all in on the sexual free-for-all, but some men concluded as much nonetheless. Feminists set themselves a contradictory task — to insist that men and women were indistinguishable in their sexual tastes and appetites but then to demand that men respect women’s particular reserve.
I don’t think women really truly believe in consequence free sex–there is too much at stake. But oddly, we are told, by other women, no less, that this is plausible.
I’ll never forget the fellow I was dating back in first year university, who tried very hard to convince me to get on the Pill. It would be good for my cycles, he said. Ha! He didn’t believe in consequence-free sex, either.
Nonetheless, the message of abortion available on demand is that sex can be consequence free. The problems with this idea are self-evident. It’s women who bear the brunt of that particular lie when we have to take a pill every day that changes our hormones (contraception), or undergo surgery (abortion) to make it be so.