I knew adopting a newborn in North America was not for the impatient. But I had no idea:
The latest federal data show about 6,800 babies a year are relinquished at birth for adoption, a minuscule number out of nearly 3 million unwed pregnancies. Moreover, only white women place their babies for adoption. Since 1989, the number of black babies relinquished at birth has been statistically zero…
Why is “Juno”-style adoption — an unwed mother places her newborn with a unrelated couple — so rare?
Legal abortion is part of the answer. Some 50 million pregnancies have been erased since the 1973 Roe v. Wade ruling…
Adoption, meanwhile, has become unthinkable.
Infant adoption is a “barbaric” practice, said one of many anti-adoption Web sites. “With abortion, grief has closure. With adoption, the grief intensifies over time,” is a common warning.
Closure? According to Webster’s dictionary, closure is “an often comforting or satisfying sense of finality; something (as a satisfying ending) that provides such a sense.” I’ve heard abortion described in many ways over the last few years, but words like ‘comforting’ and ‘satisfying’ never made the cut until now.
It is not my intention to deny the full range of emotions associated with adoption. Rather, I’d like to shout through a bullhorn (preferably while standing on a soap box) that there is no closure involved in the act of abortion. It is disturbing to think that there are anti-adoption organizations out there that preach:
Adoption…is “an industry” in which “young, unwed (and thus powerless) parents are persuaded, through force, coercion or outright lies, to transfer parental rights of their children to older, more affluent couples.”
You know, feminist abortion advocates swear to us up and down that abortion is empowering, and that the idea of coercion is ferociously exaggerated. But when faced with the option of adoption, suddenly women are weak, powerless victims who’s babies are being ripped from their arms.
Am I alone in sensing the cock-eyed perspective here?
Andrea adds: I have heard pro-life advocates express concern about coercion in adoption, actually. I think coercion certainly exists in abortion, so I don’t think it goes entirely absent in adoption. The pro-life advocate I knew wanted to advocate for girls who are pregnant to become mothers, I think. (I should add that she is not a “barefoot and pregnant” type of woman–you’ll have to take my word on that…) These are tricky questions. I would again default to the notion that we don’t kill to solve our problems, and therefore the anquish of adoption is a lesser burden than the anguish of taking your child’s life.by