CBC is taking a look at abortion. Today, as I type, they are listening to men’s experience with abortion. I can’t help but think this is a good thing because the stories are definitely conflicted and you can’t avoid that, unless they were to censor almost every story.
One fellow just now, in Windsor:
There were two abortions and you wonder sometimes. Anybody who has experienced an abortion, anyone who doesn’t at least ponder what that child would have been like, I think it’s insane if you never think what that child would have been like… It’s normal. You’re gonna be curious, you are going to think about it… It’s hard to say if we regret it. Looking back now, having three, looking at that whole time frame, sometimes I think maybe it wasn’t the right choice, but ultimately you can’t change the past.”
All this to say, people “get it” on the human level. What would these children have been like? It’s normal to ask that.
As I finish typing this, I’m listening to a man talk about how he has never gotten over the abortion his girlfriend had.
I would love for women and men to be healed from their abortions. Counselling plays an important role in this. When people are healed and can talk about it, I think we’ll see a less pro-choice culture. To this end, if you are in the Ottawa area there is help for you, free of charge, at First Place Options. Also you can google Project Rachel.
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I know how difficult the position of a woman who is unexpectedly pregnant can be in. That was me. I struggled. I was barely a Christian, so I am not king to truthfully claim that it was this that helped me choose Life for my baby. I just knew deep down that it was wrong to kill my child. Yes, my parents were disappointed. Some of my siblings were insisting that I abort my baby, after all, I was going to ruin my life! But, I didn’t and guess What? It didn’t! In fact, it saved my life. This baby ave me something to live for. I pulled up my socks and got on with it. I kept those feelings of gratitude to myself for many, many years, but recently I met another lady who shared with me that her son also saved her life. There are many other women who feel the same way. Choosing life is not only for the baby, but for Mom too. Love means – NO to abortion. Believe you have enough love to go around. There are people who will help you. Adoption is a loving option too. There are so many women longing to be mothers. I know of at least 5 families who have children because of adoption and they are so grateful! For those women who felt that abortion was the choice at the time, but have come to realize how tragic that decision was, there is Rachel’s Vineyard. They will help these deeply saddened women confront their grief over the loss of their child, and possibly move on. I am certainly most grateful I made the right decision and don’t have to make that journey. I pray those that do, have success in the mercy and kindness they will encounter. I have since married and had 3 more children. They are the light of my life. I am grateful for each and every one.
I know there are over 100,000 abortions each year in Canada. That’s a lot of classrooms and a lot of Christmas presents not under the Christmas tree this year. How sad! If women who have unexpected pregnancies, would just shut out the roar of voices “have an abortion”, and have their precious baby, their future happiness would come and not just be a dream because they are burdened with guilt over what they have forever done.
Thank you for your story! I too know women for whom an unplanned pregnancy changed their lives. It’s important to hear these stories–I hope you are able to tell yours far and wide.