This long story is about surrogacy: After multiple rounds of failed fertility treatments, the woman decides to use two surrogate mothers at the same time, resulting in a son and a daughter. She calls them “twiblings,” I guess because they are not quite twins, and not just siblings.
How did we get here? Well, she explains:
When Michael’s [her husband’s] parents adopted his sister in the 1970s, there was an abundance of babies in the United States in need of homes, but the widespread use of birth control and abortion, among other factors, has caused the supply of infants available for adoption in the subsequent three decades to plummet to a fraction of what it was then.”
And for the rest of the article, I can’t shake the idea that surrogacy and desperate attempts to conceive are intimately connected to our abortion-friendly culture, which seems counter-intuitive, really. At one end you have someone who really wants life, and at the other, the person who kills. But in the end, it seems, control is the unifying factor: We don’t have babies when we don’t want to, but when we do–come hell or high water, we will have them. (Please note this is a statement about our culture at large, not individual women who really want children, or individual women who aborted. It’s a sense that we are, as a culture, on the wrong path when it comes to how we treat life.)
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Yes, and today I read in the paper that Elton John and his ‘partner’, David Furnish, are the ‘parents’ of a newborn baby boy, Zachary, born of a surrogate mother. Elton is 62 years old, and David 48. I just feel so sad for this child. Have they no regard for his feelings? Not only will he have to deal with the fact that they’re gay, but also this huge age gap. No child should have all that dumped on him.
So what, exactly, is wrong with being in control? I’d argue that reproduction is too important to leave subject to the whims of chance.
But as abortion, IVF, surrogacy, etc. all prove, this “control” is, in fact, no such thing. Human reproduction remains very much a hit or miss (pun intended) undertaking. And all the while, other human beings are treated as so much biological material, to be manipulated and discarded at the will of other human beings.
True control comes with the recognition that, in the case of abortion, every act of intercourse has life-giving potential, and opening one’s mind and heart accordingly. In the case of fertility issues, the control comes from not allowing one’s desire to be a parent to become a dangerous obsession, but loving the people who are already in one’s life, again opening the heart and mind to the fullness of human love and living.
So much of the need for IVF and remedy for infertility is a result of the rampant
sexually transmitted disease resulting from the 1960s sexual revolution ~ thanks,
feminists!
Check out Human Life International’s recent symposium ~ 50 Years of the Pill for the
real story about the “revolution” !
According to breast surgeon, Angela Lanfranchi, the Pill is a molotov cocktail for
breast cancer!