“Benevolent sexism” (ie. gentlemanly door-opening) is identified by researcher Matthew Hammond, in this study, to be “flip side of the “hostile” sexism that would banish women to the kitchen.” He even goes so far as to suggest that woman who accept such forms of “benevolent sexism” are suffering a psychological disorder.
The study found that many women embraced benevolent sexism. Those women were also more likely to be psychologically “entitled” – a symptom of a narcissistic personality where people feel they are deserving or more special than others.
Brendan Malone comes to the rescue in this delightful rebuttal.
…when I look at women I see the feminine genius. A genius so profoundly complex, important and valuable that I adore it. I adore the feminine genius because I am a real man who has not had his masculine awareness dulled by erroneous ideologies about gender, or seriously messed up by pornography-fueled predatory attitudes towards women.
He sees ‘gentlemanly door opening’ as a sign of respect (nay, he even goes so far as to say “adoration”) of the feminine genius.
Thank you to the Brendan Malones of the world who still follow their common sense notions, and who see the gesture of door opening as a sign of respect.
We women return the favour and say, without your little gestures of selflessness, we would not be inspired to live up to our own calling of feminine greatness.
Little joke:
First half of my life I got into trouble because I’d forget to open doors for women.
Second half of my life I got into trouble because I opened doors for women.
So, I’ve decided to forget the rules and see people as valuable persons and relate to them with respect and appreciation. I open doors for anyone and wish anybody a good day. I’m having a much better time!
Good for you, David. 🙂
When men open the door for me I make a point of saying a loud thank you! Bring on the “sexism.”
I went to an etiquette dinner with A, K and A and we were told it would be rude to show women favour, such as opening doors, or standing when they join the table, because women worked so hard for equality.
As you can guess, the heads of the usual suspects exploded.
And I also go out of the way to clearly thank men who open doors for me or hold the elevator.