I appreciate Brian’s thoughts on Morgentaler’s death. I particularly find it interesting to hear how Brian felt when he met Morgentaler. Even Morgentaler’s allies say he was “difficult,” something people have not discussed at the time of his passing (for obvious reasons).
That was harsh. I found it hard to listen to, even though I largely agree with what he said.
What is it about speaking ill of the dead that is such a taboo?
It seems to me speaking ill of the dead is such a taboo one might find it hard to distinguish between speaking ill of the dead and recounting the ‘whole’ story of someone who has died.
Speaking ill is akin to mean-mouthing, slander or gossip intended to create a picture of someone for one’s own gain when it is in fact misleading as it is a distortion. We see that all the time in media wherein some politicians are always presented as suspect and to further that they are juxtaposed with the ‘glorified’. A classic example is the media portrayal of Robert Stanfield compared to Pierre Trudeau – the ‘fumbler’ versus the ‘debonair’. The ‘angry’ Mulcair and the ‘promising’ Justin.
On the other hand one can recall someone accurately, as in telling the ‘whole’ truth, without vile intent though it may show the person to be not really all that great. This potential outcome should not mean that one is never to do so. It is the job of Historians and Journalists and the everyday person can do the same. It is not speaking ill. To do this with a private person may be appropriate in private circles and may be awkward and conflicting though essential to saying goodbye and allowing for closure. But this is not reason to not speak. All the more so with public figures especially if others are making comment. Some may be creating a glorified remembrance and thus really asking for a fuller picture.
I understand but wince inside when I hear people won’t mourn at Dr. Henry Morgentaler’s death. My article and song will explain why: http://wp.me/p3jjpD-23
I didn’t find it harsh at all. It is his well-founded opinion on a man who is otherwise being celebrated as a Great Canadian. I have never felt the same about my country since he was awarded the order of Canada. Absolutely bloody disgraceful.