The thought has crossed my mind that one might get slightly more sympathy for being a pedophile than for espousing virginity until marriage. Read this infantile editorial and decide for yourself. The blog they are referring to is here.
I haven’t read much of the blog yet, but I will say this: Those are four brave women, taking on an untouchable topic. They are overtly religious about it, from what I can tell. As if there weren’t enough purely secular reasons out there to abstain from sex. I’ll never forget my decidedly non-Christian, non-virgin of a family doc, years back, wryly commenting how she had had it with meaningless sexual encounters and had practiced a newfound virginity of sorts with her now husband. It shocked the pants off me (not literal) because she was quite a curt, down-to-earth, very professional, non-emotional, and again, I’m quite sure, non-religious woman.
The hostility to four women who are not “telling you how to live” but rather providing an example of how one might consider doing things differently without growing an additional head beggars belief in an era of pain over misplaced, misused, misappropriated sexuality.
People often feel judged by the moral positions that you take. Like if you tell people you don’t practice contraception, they feel judged by you even if you have no clue as to what their contraceptive practices are (if any!). I suspect it’s the same with virginity. You may not have any idea what people are doing behind closed doors, but just bit of information makes people think you’re being high and mighty when you’re not.
I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate this post! I was beginning to feel like a cyclops, and my doctors certainly look at me as though I am one when I tell them that I am using abstinence as my method of birth control.
I feel uncomfortable being vocal about the way I live, not least of all due to the impression of sanctimoniousness my confession of “waiting until marriage” produces. Interestingly, the eye rolls I receive never fail to make me feel like I am the one who is being judged.