Miriam Grossman, (100 percent MD, 0 percent PC) is doing an admirable job these days to equip us all to cope with 50 Shades of Grey. I’m encouraged that she is rising to this challenge, considering I just saw a 50 Shades of Grey display at my local grocery store, felt a rising sense of despair and then did…precisely nothing. (Well, I paid for my groceries and left. That much I did. So I’m not still standing there, incapacitated. Hurray!)
Parents, however, can do more. It’s something small and important and it will build your family up. You can talk to your sons and daughters about this stuff. And tell them why it’s not normal. Then you can expand and continue the discussion into one of what you want them to know about sex. It takes a lot less (a lot less) than 50 Shades of Grey behaviour to damage a young person. The scars they accrue in their teens and twenties will be with them for a lifetime and will be shared by their future spouse, in spite of them not having a sweet clue about who or even whether they will get married one day. Them’s the breaks and yes, it is sad. The short-lived days of the “freedom” of the sexual revolution of the 60s have already turned over into a legacy of divorce, STDs, lack of intimacy, and rising porn rates.
So, parents: you have the power to prevent pain in your kids through loving and compassionate conversation. Miriam Grossman is great, and she provides links to other helpful sites like this one.