Champagne socialists as a subsection of socialists in general. Environmentalists who say no to the oil sands but yes to their brand new Landrover (to take them to the cottage in Muskoka). Environmentalists who believe they are morally superior precisely because they bike everywhere and haven’t used a plastic bag since the early 80s. “Christians” who don’t believe in Christ and write books about it…
Apparently once I get started there’s a whole list of people I don’t have time for. (I should probably get to my point before I stop having time for myself for all the whinging I’m doing.)
Yet another category would be those who claim to want to protest something (in this case, the sexist and patriarchal institution of marriage) but then get married. But then keep on complaining nonetheless.
Read all about this wannabe feminist social activist, lacking in character, chutzpah and anything resembling conviction, here.
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Andrea worries about the state of her soul: I have time for all people. It’s some views I have little-to-no time for. (Apparently I posted in haste. But I’m always posting in haste, so I guess you can’t win ’em all.)
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Matthew N says
The author seems oblivious to the reason why other people treated their relationship differently than they treat marriages. Her whole intention was to buck marriage in the first place, and yet she acts surprised that people will assume she’s bucked the conventions of marriage as well?
The reason they don’t see her relationship as permanent as marriage is revealed by her own admission:
“We accepted the fact that our partnership, our deal, like any marriage, could fall apart — but we vowed to be honest and open with each other and to commit ourselves to each other for as long as we could.”
That is a non-committal commitment. Staying with someone “as long as you can” is not a promise. It is an acknowledgment that you yourself don’t regard the relationship as permanent, since you are not opposed to the prospect of changing your mind in the future. One’s friends and one’s financial institutions regard this as a lack of commitment for the very reason that the longevity of the relationship is predicated not upon a contract but upon one’s whim. While marriages can and do fall apart, sometimes the marital vows are the only things keeping it together until the issues of the couple get resolved.
If one is opposed to making such a commitment, one has no right to demand to be treated as if you did.
When everyone around you seems to be acting in ways that don’t make sense to you, probably there’s something wrong with your world-view.