It’s not uncommon for me to send Andrea a link to a news article with the accompanying text: “I don’t even know how to blog about this. I don’t know where to start.”
This story about Nicky Windsor is one of those stories. Nicky is a 29 year old woman from England who chose to abort her child.
She became upset with the abortion provider, the Conifer House clinic, because it did not provide her with sufficient options regarding the disposal of her dead baby’s body.
In response to her complaint, the clinic sent a card of apology and “comfort” and two ultrasound pictures of her baby. Nicky’s statement to the media:
She said: ‘I couldn’t believe my eyes. It’s absolutely disgraceful.
‘I’ve never known anything like it. What were they trying to do to me? Why on earth would I want scan pictures?
‘Going through a procedure like that is traumatic enough so to have it all brought back to me in the way that they did was absolutely shocking.
‘When I first got the card I thought it was a nice gesture but when I opened it up and saw two baby scans it absolutely shattered me. It was just an awful feeling.
‘It felt as if I had to go through the loss all over again.’
The front of the card, though not noted in the article reads “Your little one is sleeping soundly. Your little one is sleeping on a cloud, drifting high above. And gently dreams of peaceful things surrounded by your love.”
Nicky is not angry because her child is dead. She’s not angry that she perhaps made the wrong decision. She’s not angry that women are frequently told that abortion is a simple and straightforward procedure with few side effects, when she suffered severe trauma.
She’s angry that she couldn’t do what she wanted with the corpse and she’s angry that she had to look at the child that she “terminated.” She’s so angry that she goes public with her story and speaks to the media.
This story is as maddening as it is tragic. But the article does reveal some of the tragedy of abortion, how it not only ends a baby’s life, but how it hurts women. Nicky herself said that choosing to have an abortion proved to be a traumatic experience. The abortion provider also admits, via the message on the card, that a child was alive and is now dead and that the mother may be concerned about her child’s eternal soul.
I have to wonder if that concern and pain may be part of the reason for Nicky’s anger directed at the clinic. Nicky’s baby is gone and Nicky herself is in a lot of emotional pain.
And those of us who are pro-life are told we can’t call ourselves pro-woman.