Ever since I saw this, I’ve been thinking more about why abstinence is a bad word. Reading this, it became pretty clear. (If you enjoyed that read, you’re in luck. Hundreds of similar articles are published every day.)
If we adults choose to live like an episode of Sex and the City, preaching abstinence to our teens seems outlandishly hypocritical. Gracious, no one wants to be a hypocrite!
That, and “do as I say – not as I do” has never been a very effective parenting technique.
Brigitte is laughing her little head off: My favourite part in the age-difference discussion?
Family members seem to be a popular gauge on both ends of the scale: ‘They have to be older than my younger brother,’ another woman tells me.
Of course, it also depends on whether you’re planning on doing more than sleeping with the person. ‘I mean, is it just sex or am I going to have to have breakfast with the guy and attempt conversation?’ a young woman in her 30s asks.
But, our middle-agish woman also had a problem with this distinction. ‘Sleeping with people is a type of relationship, isn’t it?’
Yes, honey, it is.
Andrea is also laughing:
Having said that, however, as a friend in Vancouver so aptly put it, ‘It is still a great ego boost when a guy ten years younger than you makes it quite apparent that he’s got it bad for you!’
Ain’t no “ego-boost” large enough to compensate for the lack of self-esteem that would allow a woman to think someone younger than her wanting to sleep with her constitutes a compliment. I mean, imagine that… a young testosterone-filled guy wanting to have sex. With me. Sweep me right off my feet.