A new book explains sagely how to leave your child successfully:
Expect also that your child may be “very, very angry.” Remember “even if the only thing your daughter has to say to you is how much she hates you, take heart. Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is.” If your child sends an angry text message, “Let her express her anger without letting the content affect you too much,” writes Hart. Tell her, “I know you are very angry. I’m truly sorry that things have turned out this way.”
Very comforting for mothers in horrific family situations everwhere, I’m sure. The author is British–this is a real bang-up week for news from England, let me tell you. “God save the Queen?” God save England.
Rebecca adds: It’s worth clarifying that this isn’t about how successfully to leave your child with a babysitter for the evening, or at a daycare during the work week. (We all know children who react with rage and betrayal at being left with a trusted sitter for three hours, once a year, so Mum and Dad can go to a restaurant.) It’s about mothers who choose not to live with their (quite young) children.
Yet another taboo that we’re well on the way to normalizing, it seems.