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September 23, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek 3 Comments

There’s an art to blogging. You could unearth stories the mainstream media is not getting. You could piece together inaccuracies. You could connect the dots between reported events using your personal sources.

Or, you could link to a piece you already wrote, in the Post today. I believe it’s called “circular referencing.” (This piece will live permanently in our Notable Columns section, here.)

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Update: A friendly pro-lifer, well, two, to be perfectly honest, have raised objections to this:

To be fair, pro-lifers have not played their hand well, either. Mashing themselves between homemade sandwich boards and roaming the streets outside clinics has only ensured a place on the fringe beside conspiracy theorists adamant that 9/11 was an inside job.”

Why would this activity be so misplaced, so fringe, given what Paglia aptly identifies? Pro-lifers protesting outside clinics are only responding to the institutional death machines—in this here civilized society of ours.
“Sandwiched” pro-lifers outside clinics are responding bravely to the truth that Paglia knows.
So why did I write that then? In part, because that is how the mainstream media perceives those protesting, day in day out. I was thinking expressly of signs that read “Abortion is murder”–and how those do fall on deaf ears these days, simply because it’s been repeated too many times. It’s like warning labels on cigarette packages–they lose their potency when seen too many times. That doesn’t mean that some people won’t respond to them, though.
I think most every anti-abortion protest is a good one—and this will all come together in some fruitful, meaningful way (with a severe reduction in the number of abortions and a newly awakened, invigorated culture) sooner rather than later. Sandwiched pro-lifers: I’m sorry I disparaged your efforts.

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Rebecca says: I’m with Andrea on the counter-productive nature of sandwich boards, “abortion is murder,” and language such as “abortuaries.” Not because of inaccuracy – and if you’re talking only to people who already are prolife, all this is fine. But the reality is, for moderates and undecideds, let alone “choice” activists, this is tantamount to holding a sign saying “I am an extremist, do not take me seriously” over your head. Is your objective to be in the right, while ensuring that you’ll be written off? Or is your objective to persuade even one person to change his mind, to reconsider the received wisdom, to open up her heart to the possibility that the fetus in her womb is more than a clump of cells, akin to an appendix, to be destroyed if troublesome?

I understand the outrage and conviction and passion; I really do. But we’ll change how our society treats unborn babies (and other vulnerable people) by engaging other Canadians in debate and discussion, by appealing to their morals and ethics and intellects and feelings. This won’t happen if we alienate them even before we open our mouths, or if we make it easy for them to write us off as nutcases.

Having said all this, there is only so much one side can do to generate thoughtful and respectful discussion, and Camille Paglia aside, there is far too little of that on the pro-choice side.

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Brigitte agrees: I don’t mean to offend (really, I don’t), but you ought to see it from the casual outsider’s point of view. Protesters usually have loser dust all over them. And no amount of complaining will change that. It doesn’t necessarily mean protests are useless. But they aren’t nearly as useful as protesters want to believe.

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Andrea adds: Well. I do think a sign of protest on our dead quiet streets (no pun intended) can offer some new ideas to some people. And for me personally, it is a reminder that not everyone is apathetic, which is encouraging. A blog isn’t changing anyone’s mind either–nothing does, all on its own. I have tended to think that almost anyone being active on the issue helps change the culture. And that part of the column was not intended to disparage those protesting on the streets, but rather to think about what signs say–what might be more effective. I suppose given the pro-abortion status quo we’re all at loose ends for that answer. Protestors are not losers. How many massive changes worldwide were started because one person stuck their neck out? Countless.

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Rebecca comes back: One way to change minds is to challenge people’s preconceived (no pun intended) ideas. That’s one of the reasons why I was, and remain, so excited by PWPL; the site is testimony to the fact that you don’t need to be a Christian, a fundamentalist, or religious at all to believe in the sanctity of life; you can be a mother, or not, and yet recognize that a life begins when a child is conceived, not at some arbitrary later point in its development; you can live your life, vote, worship, and go about your business in any number of ways while believing that a culture of death is harmful to all of us, and that a society that truly empowers and values women will not perpetrate what has been described as the ultimate act of violence against women.

When I was younger I subscribed to the dogma I was taught: that pro-lifers are trying to impose patriarchal values on women, that they think sex is evil, that they seek to deny women the freedoms enjoyed by men, and so on. I tuned out friends and strangers alike who said that “abortion stops a beating heart.” The first crack in my certainty occurred when a mentor I respected, a former social worker, told me she had sleepless nights from time to time when she thought of the women she had helped obtain abortions. This gave me pause; someone who was in many ways kindred, whom I could not dismiss as uneducated, or unenlightened, did not argue with me, but simply shared something that made me reevaluate her, and my beliefs, and myself. She shook up the way I saw the whole issue.

Protestors are certainly not apathetic, and expose themselves to ridicule and harrassment and abuse for the sake of their principles, which is admirable. And they challenge those of us who agree with them, and make us ask ourselves if we could be doing more. But every time I walked by them when I was younger, they did not challenge my assumptions, they reaffirmed them, and I am sure I’m not the only person who has experienced that.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: National Post, Shelley Gavigan, Thank you Camille Paglia

You have GOT to be kidding

August 25, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek Leave a Comment

Now here’s a doctor I don’t want: One who thinks miscarriage and abortion are the same thing. Intent matters, my friend, intent matters, in the law as well: if I run over a person by accident in my car I would be charged differently (or not all) than I would if I waited behind a bush and then revved my engine into full gear.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: abortion, Dr. Robert Mckegney, National Post

This is high school?

May 5, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek Leave a Comment

The National Post recently discussed Miley Cyrus and her topless appearance on the cover of Vanity Fair. Two on the editorial team reasonably commented that the photo was inappropriate. I’d agree and add this: That photo is the least of my concerns.  

See Gossip Girl–the new season just started. To say that these are kids acting like adults isn’t really fair to most adults, actually. It’s about a prep school where orgasmic sexual encounters are the norm, teachers, parents and adults absent. It’s Beverly Hills 90210 on steroids with a dash of Hugh Hefner. No wonder Colby Cosh of the Post wasn’t shocked by Miley Cyrus: He’s probably seen Gossip Girl, and by these standards the Cyrus photo was the epitome of decency and all American charm. Watch the season promo below:

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Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: Colby Cosh, Gossip Girl, Marni Soupcoff, National Post, teen sexuality

Index that

April 5, 2008 by Véronique Bergeron Leave a Comment

This article from last Saturday’s National Post must be one of the most shallow analyses of parenthood and reproduction I’ve ever read. And I’ve read a lot. One notable excerpt made me laugh out loud:

Why are people choosing to have fewer children? After all, voluntary childlessness seems to violate the Darwinian premise that our genes predispose us, like all other creatures, to try to reproduce.

I don’t think we can be faulted for failing to try to reproduce. As the mother of inquisitive children, I can tell you that copulation is everywhere. Our problem is not the trying. The actual reproduction that results from all the trying, well, uh, that’s another story.

That being said, this article made me take stock of my own happiness index. Being five times a mother, I figured I should know. Maybe this made me reflect because I was particularly grouchy that day. Because reward, when it comes to parenting, is something we feel more than something we know. It is both inanely obvious and impossible to describe. It chews us up and spits us out and makes us grateful for the ride. It is like nothing else, which probably explains why conventional happiness indexes miss it all together.

The contentment that comes from being a parent is not physical – although those newborns sure smell good – nor is it emotional. In fact, the emotions it triggers can be downright negative: may the person who has never felt exasperation after repeating the same simple instruction a gazillion time – don’t jump on the couch, leave your brother alone, when the baby cries it means he doesn’t like it, the cat is not supposed to make that noise – cast the first stone, but it sure won’t be me! The contentment that comes from being a parent is a contentment of the heart, a sense that we are partakers in something much bigger than ourselves, a feeling that we are given a mission we can’t refuse. It also pushes us to limits we didn’t know we had. Limits of patience, yes. But also limits of self-sacrifice, love and tolerance. When my first child was born, I thought I could never love anyone else that much. Until the second one came along. And the third. By the fourth, I had learned one of life’s most valuable lessons: each additional child doesn’t take away from the mother love-pie, it’s the pie that gets bigger.

And this is my unscientific observation: Parenthood makes me happy because I love. And the more I parent, the more I love. But the more I love, the more I suffer because loving children is not the same as loving ice cream. When they cry, I cry. When they fear, I fear. When they stumble and fall, I stumble and fall and then have nightmares about it. And as they grow and become more independent, I am torn between beaming with pride and collapsing in a heap because each step they take away from me is a step that separates me from a piece of my own heart. The heightened sensitivity that comes from being a parent has made me more aware of forms of happiness I would have otherwise ignored. And while each additional child makes me cry, fear and stumble more, children also make me more sensitive, loving and patient. Happier.

Happy-index that!

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Tanya is picturing Véronique breaking into song:

 

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Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: birth dearth, Demographic winter, happiness, happiness index, National Post, parenthood, rewarding

Of lab rats, guinea pigs, mice and women

April 3, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek Leave a Comment

My letter in the Post today can be read here.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: Barbara Kay, National Post

No sirree, it’s not over

March 11, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek Leave a Comment

Thank you. The abortion debate is not over. That’s not what the Supreme Court said. They said there is such a thing as fetal rights, and we ought to have Parliament decide.

It is a start to simply get the word out that the Supreme Court of Canada was not opposed to fetal rights. My job is to show Canadians that granting fetal rights is not opposed to women’s rights. This is not an either/or scenario. Women will thrive when their babies do too.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: , abortion debate, National Post

I’m gestating on this one…give me a moment

March 6, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek Leave a Comment

What a letter.

I wasn’t sure how to title this post: “No need to debate abortion, but a definitive need to speak clear English” or how about “Pro-choice letter writer admits we are all just in various states of gestation…the quintessential pro-life point” or finally, “Yes! I’m in a state of gestation too.”

One small point on this letter to the editor: A debate can’t occur in isolation, in someone’s mind. That’s not a debate, that’s solitary contemplation. And women and men don’t contemplate abortion unless they are challenged to do so. Let me reiterate a point I’ve made before: An unexpected pregnancy is a very bad time to contemplate one’s views on abortion for the very first time.

Muriel Beauroy’s views are profoundly anti-woman, and I might add, contrary to making an informed choice.  

But keep up the good work, incoherent pro-choicers! Only makes my job a whole lot easier.

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Brigitte scratches her head in acute puzzlement:

To those who bemoan the conscience of many women on this matter, I would simply remind them that at any given moment vast numbers of women are in a state of gestation, visibly or not, to term or not. This is quite natural and private.

So we don’t need to bemoan the conscience (or, more aptly, lack thereof) of women because vast numbers of them are gestating even as we speak? Well, if that’s the pro-choice position, things are looking up indeed.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: , ban debate, Muriel Beauroy, National Post, York University

Poser la question, c’est y répondre

March 4, 2008 by Brigitte Pellerin Leave a Comment

On the front page of today’s National Post. Is abortion too hot a topic for campuses?

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: National Post, York University

Unhappy days in the EI office

February 1, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek Leave a Comment

Still don’t believe me when I say elite opinion in Canada is pro-choice? Here, we read about a federal bureaucracy that can’t tell the difference between abortion and miscarriage. Come one, come all–maternity benefits for everyone! This has to be a bad day in the employment insurance office… who allowed this policy to stand?

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Rebecca adds: I suspect that maternity benefits for women who have late term abortions come from a decision to extend benefits to women who have a stillbirth, which is in itself a fine decision. (Anyone dealing with the physical and mental anguish of losing a baby late in pregnancy should have some help from EI, whether or not it’s provided as maternity leave.) This reflects something that has long puzzled me about modern feminism: the denial of women’s capacity to make educated, responsible choices about their own lives, in other words to be fully enfranchised adults.

The difference of course between losing a baby in the third trimester to stillbirth and aborting a third trimester pregnancy is that one represents a choice made by the mother. Shaping EI policy to ignore this choice is very bizarre. This reminds me of the cries of protest that arise whenever it is suggested that assault that causes a pregnant woman to miscarry be treated as two crimes, the assault against the mother and the homicide of the baby. If such a law is passed, we are told, then women who get abortions will be charged with murder!

Well, no. It is easy to differentiate between the termination of a pregnancy by a medical procedure to which the mother consents (often arguing that without an abortion she will suffer great mental anguish) and the termination of a pregnancy by a criminal assault on a woman, that itself causes her anguish. Why the reluctance to look at the choices made by women, what motivates these choices, and what the consequences are? Isn’t it really infantilizing to strip women of their agency in this way, to pretend that an abortion is for all intents and purposes the same as a stillbirth, that an assault that causes a woman to lose a baby is essentially the same as any other miscarriage?

As for me, I think it’s tragic whenever a pregnancy doesn’t ultimately result in a healthy baby. But not all tragedies are the same. It’s always dreadful when a building burns down, but a chance electrical fire is not the same thing as arson, and it would be madness to make policy as if there were no difference between the two.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: employment insurance, John Williamson, National Post

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