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Jean Vanier and making room for the unwanted

December 2, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek 5 Comments

The Globe and Mail of all places had an interesting exchange on abortion between Ian Brown, who has written about his struggles with his son’s disabilities before, and Jean Vanier, who has also been awarded the Order of Canada for his work.

I am less interested in Ian Brown’s points, if only because he is basically asking a question of Jean Vanier: How could he keep his Order of Canada? (Brown expresses discomfort with abortion, especially the kind that would see his son killed in the womb but then says he can’t get away from a woman’s choice. I would merely suggest “choice” is not a value. “Faith, hope, love and choice, and the greatest of these is choice”? Um, not really.)  

I read Vanier’s thoughts closely. I first read them with sadness and then, as I began to consider them more, with a sense of respect–finally, I came around and thought–this is a type of pro-life discourse that could bring even the uninterested Globe reader around. It is, in the end, pro-life discourse.

In his letter, Vanier says he is keeping his Order of Canada. He doesn’t say abortion is wrong, or evil. There’s also a fair amount of mundane “motherhood and apple pie” statements.

He gets at what make this country great:

It is important that we re-find this identity, that we encourage the young of our land (in whom we should have much hope) to discover the beauty of being Canadians with our own specific culture – peacemakers, people who give life, who become a sign that peace is possible in our world; to discover that our land is called to be a place of welcome not just for wealthy and competent people from other lands but also for refugees, for people from war-torn and poverty-stricken lands.” (emphasis mine)

In short, he is saying that Canada should be a place where the unwanted are welcome. (Even unwanted babies, one could add. )  

He speaks of the sexual urge that “flows from a deep cry of loneliness.” There are few who sleep with someone for the cheap thrills, rather, it is because people are lonely. We all want to be known. We want companionship. And having a baby may be the furthest thing from our minds…

I really agree with him that loneliness is a terrible driver, both of sleeping with someone who doesn’t know you, not really, and then subsequently having an abortion. “And then too often,” he writes, “we see the shame, anger and despair of a woman who finds she is becoming a mother… her anguish makes her seek an abortion.”

I can see this.

“I do not want to say such a person in anguish is a ‘killer’. I would like to walk with her—maybe cry with her.”

Sure, and that’s the point of PWPL. Though I do think I’d like to prevent her from killing, while walking and crying with her. But still, I see his point.

Then he writes, “so we are not in front of something which is either ‘abortion’ or ‘not abortion,’ ‘pro-life’ or ‘pro-choice.’ We are in front of something so much more complex.”

Pro-lifers are in this habit of saying abortion is not complicated, it is all so very simple. They are right, because abortion takes a life, and that is simple. And pro-choicers are in this habit of saying it is all very complex—and they are right, because that is how it feels to the people involved–there are many factors driving her to the clinic.

He then says:

Maybe the real question is: What is the meaning of our life? What does it mean to be human?”

Aha. And that is indeed a good question. I happen to believe if more women asked this, and more people responded appropriately, with encouragement, then we’d see more and more women empowered to “choose life” (understanding that we’d rather not choose killing as a routine course of action). (Too many women in the moment of a crisis are not asking big, philosophical questions, but rather the detailed short-term ones. Can I afford this? Can I finish school? Will he stick around? Do I want him to? etc.)

Anyway, Vanier’s life is compelling, compassionate, and if he doesn’t want to fall into all the ancient, unproductive and shrill rhetoric from both camps—then TRUST ME–I’m AOK with that.

On the notion of keeping the Order of Canada, he says the Order should go to those who “give and foster life.” Vanier sounds like a smart man—he must know that’s not what Morgentaler does. In that sense, he is keeping his Order of Canada perhaps so the Order is not devoid of those who do great things: give and foster life.

I don’t agree, I’d give mine back pronto. (If I had one.) But I see his point—Canada is a great country, and if we have such honours then they might as well be peopled by great men (and women). (Put your knickers back on, my feminist friends, it’s a turn of phrase).

Morgentaler should be the one to go. In due time, I believe he’ll be removed, as we hang our heads and reassess a time in Canadian history where we did not make room, we had no time–for those we chose to call “unwanted”.  

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: Ian Brown, Jean Vanier, Morgentaler

Britain on top in more ways than just one

December 1, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek Leave a Comment

This article highlights how Britain is top of all western nations for sexual promiscuity. And that, they say, is a good thing for women’s rights and equality:

Britain’s ranking was ascribed to factors such as the decline of religious scruples about extramarital sex, the growth of equal pay and equal rights for women and a highly sexualised popular culture.

Just off the top of my head, there are other areas where Britain is on top, too: family breakdown, dropout rates, generational welfare dependency, high rates of single parenting, indebtedness and drug addictions. I believe their youth gang rates are also on the rise.

 But I’m sure none of these things are connected. Way to go Britain. And thank goodness for “women’s rights,” as expressed by men (in this case, David Schmitt, a professor of psychology at Bradley University, Illinois) who slap wildly inaccurate interpretations on top of devastating research results.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: DAvid Schmitt, promiscuity, Women's rights

Washington DC in pictures

December 1, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek 1 Comment




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ProWomanProLife advances to next round

November 30, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek 4 Comments

Will wonders never cease? We’ve advanced to the final five in the Best New Blog category at the Canadian Blog Awards.

Thank you to all those who voted. 

Now seems as good a time as any to come clean: I’m in this for the accolades. The recognition. (I don’t mean to show off, but I got free passes to see Bella. Yes, that’s right. Free.)

So if you’d like to vote for us again to become BEST new Blog, not just one of five–you can do so here.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: Best New Blog, Canadian Blog Awards

We’re everywhere, Part II

November 28, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek Leave a Comment

More women–this time with their own columns–who are pro-life. Naomi Lakritz and Susan Martinuk in today’s Calgary Herald.

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Thank you

November 28, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek 3 Comments

Thank you to these academics for weighing in on a matter not intimately connected with their work or interests–in defense of the freedom of expression of the University of Calgary pro-life club. I think it helps when longstanding, respectable professors make a statement like this.

The university would never order an activist animal rights group that might display pictures of animals bleeding, suffering or dead to turn its pictures inward. Nor would the university censor or threaten antiwar activists for posting pictures of those burnt alive in Hiroshima or Dresden by Allied bombs. The more likely response would be that such images show the end results of past personal and political decisions. The university would likely argue such depictions might make some uncomfortable, but that’s the point of a university: to question, analyze and debate about one’s own assumptions and morality, as well as that of others.

It’s not that the display is graphic, it’s not that it is controversial–we see that on campus all the time.

It’s because it’s about abortion, and we have an unreasonable fear about grappling with this injustice as it occurs around us, day in, day out. It’s not a feel-good moment to realize we are as a country and as a society perpetuating an injustice RIGHT NOW and that’s what this display shows so many. Sometimes it is absolutely necessary to offend people. That’s the way I see it, anyhow.

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Brigitte is struggling: I don’t like any of this. I don’t like GAP images. Yes, I forced myself to look at them (and many other horrifying things), and I challenge every pro-choicer to do the same. But I hate it when people shove those images in my face without some kind of warning. That doesn’t mean I’m against every single one of their public displays. I just want some warning, and a chance to look away – which is especially necessary in a public space where young children might suddenly be confronted with something for which they are not prepared, or for which their parents wish to prepare them differently – for instance, by not starting with bloody and extremely disturbing images. Not the case here: A university campus is not the same as just any city street. Still, I don’t like the displays.

That said, I also don’t like the double standard. If disturbing and bloody images are out, then there’s no room for PETA posters [warning: don’t click on this link if you’re eating lunch], to pick one easy example at random.

I don’t want anybody to shove bloody images into people’s faces without warning. But given that some people are allowed to do it for the cause they believe in, should it be OK to allow it for other people who do it for a cause that is, let’s just say, less popular with those who make the rules?

I honestly don’t know.

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Andrea adds: You know, Brigitte, I hear you. I was motivated to act on this whole issue of abortion by a presentation by Stephanie Gray of the Canadian Centre for Bioethical Reform which was about an hour long and involved her talking at length about the history of social injustice, how certain reform movements were motivated by visuals as in the case of Emmett Till, who was murdered brutally and whose mother insisted on an open casket at his funeral. She simultaneously, as she spoke, showed the pictures, and that was the first time I saw a video of an abortion. So I maintain some concern that without the lengthy sit down discussion, the pictures are merely inflammatory and distancing, furthermore, that because we see so many terribly graphic images these days, that a new set will have little to no impact. Who doesn’t see blood and gore every night on your average crime show? We don’t live in Emmett Till’s age anymore. 

BUT–These photos jar people into noticing that every day we kill people, and that’s what they are, and we call it something else, be it reproductive rights or choice or what have you. We actually view abortion as compassionate, quite far away from viewing it as a social injustice. Abortion is something that breaks women and communities down, is both the result of distress and causes more… We are so far away from viewing abortion this way, that I’m pretty much in favour of every pro-life effort.

For people with kids–who are faced with these photos–the only thing I can think of is to use it as a teachable moment, which you are going to encounter at just about every corner these days (think of American Apparel, HandM ads, think TV any night of the week).

I resent the Abortion Distortion–graphic ads re. animal abuse are AOK. If we extended even half the concern this society feels about animals (and I’m not saying that is wrong, at all) to people, well…

Stephanie Gray certainly does get a lot of “converts” should you want to call them that, and I count myself among them. Give that woman an auditorium every night of the week, I say. If people would put down their fair-trade lattés and come, is the question.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: Barry Cooper, CAmpus pro-life club, GAP, Genocide Awareness Project, Mark Milke, Tom Flanagan, University of Calgary

Radical

November 28, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek Leave a Comment

That crazy idea that people are people, and therefore we don’t ever own or control them, just keeps coming back, here in a short movie called Volition. (I logged on because I couldn’t sleep. So how about a short film that combines the Holocaust, slavery and abortion? Mental note: find new interests.)

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We’re everywhere…

November 27, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek 5 Comments

…women who are pro-life, I mean. Read about the Ottawa-based Lea Singh here.

Now I happen to know Lea–we have the Czech Connection in common (and that’s not very common: Who else can I go to for a “palacinky” recipe, if my mama is not around?) plus a devotion to Life-Related Things. From time to time I hear her call into Ottawa talk radio to make the point I’m thinking. (Thanks, Lea.) She’s an all-round great girl, and this is a nice portrait of her, and her very empowering choices. (Man oh man, she gave up quite a salary. I on the other hand entered into this fray with a very high-quality hybrid bicycle.)

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Brigitte was about to ask: What the heck are/is palacinky? But instead she used her amazing Googling skills and came up with this picture. Horrible! Chocolate on crepes, with whipped cream, too?

Ew! Czech chocolate!

Ew! Czech chocolate!

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Andrea adds: “Brigitte Pellerin”–nope, don’t see it. Just checking my invitation list for the massive Czech fiesta I’m planning–replete with good food, Czech beer and all those who can appreciate the finer things in life, like palacinky. (I trust that was sarcastic. Brigitte is after all the woman who asks for Extra Whipping Cream on her Starbucks, when we go for coffee.)

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Brigitte smartens up real quick: Palacinky, you say? (And exactly how you say it I know not…) Sounds delicious! Lovely! Especially the whipped cream on top!

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Andrea as Czech teacher: PA-LA-CHINK-A (one), PA-LA-CHINKY (Two or more).

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Véronique says: Feeling bad — not really — for going back on topic when off topic involves yummies.

I don’t want to sound like misery loves company but I love reading about lawyers who long for something more and give up all the bells and whistles in favour of a (presumably) simpler, more meaningful life.

I never felt like I had a choice in the work-life balance. I got pregnant young and it always seemed obvious to me that my loyalties should lie with my children as opposed to my employer. But I had a choice and I would be lying if I pretended not to wonder whether the life I didn’t choose wouldn’t be nicer. Nicer as in: “if I had more money I could buy a new pair of designer boots instead of wearing the old boots my daughter grew out of this year (yes, I wear hand-me-downs from my children. You know you’re not getting younger when…).”

The thing is that there isn’t that many role models for people making counter-cultural career choices. Like having a half-dozen children or working for a Catholic organization. But the good news is that I am always inspired by people who make the tough choices. And I feel thankful every time somebody makes me feel normal for choosing life and family over money and prestige (assuming I would have had either as a legal animal, which is not a given).

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: Lea Singh

ProWomanProLife nominated for Best New Blog

November 27, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek 2 Comments

Canadian Blog Awards has nominated us in the category Best New Blog. Weeeeee!

If you’d like to vote for us, please do so here.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: Best New Blog, Canadian Blog Awards, ProWomanProLife

Day two at the University of Calgary

November 27, 2008 by Andrea Mrozek 1 Comment

Some coverage of the UofC campus pro-life display, here. That’s a link to CTV, with video too. As usual, the comments are very interesting. Here’s my personal fav–“Andrew” argues he shouldn’t be distracted from his education by, well, learning:

Even giving pro life the argument that a fetus is a person, a woman still has a full right to decide what goes on inside her body.

Also these signs are disruptive to our education. In one of my classes I had a test and while preparing for it, I overheard one of my colleagues saying “I can’t stop thinking about abortions”. Although the comment had a humorous intent it still reflects the disruptive qualities of this “protest” so to speak. Some people are paying a lot of money to attend university and the last thing they need are disruptions about issues irrelevant to them.
 

The calibre of a university education, and those who want one, continues to climb and climb and climb. Shoot for the stars, Andrew.

Filed Under: All Posts Tagged With: CAmpus pro-life club, Genocide Awareness Project, University of Calgary

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