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Outrage worthy indeed

April 3, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin Leave a Comment

I was scratching my head trying to remember if there was anything on which me and Susan Riley ever agreed. I seem to recall we sort of both said once (years ago) that we didn’t care much about hockey playoffs. I believe that’s about it. Until this morning – her column about that famous Afghan bill that would allow, among other things, men to rape their wives, is one I have a lot of sympathy for.

The truth is that this particular law is the unremarkable outgrowth of an ideology, Islamic fundamentalism, that devalues women and still holds sway in Afghanistan.

The so-called Shia Personal Status Law hasn’t yet been publicly circulated. It would apply to an estimated 10 per cent of the population — a swing bloc of Shia voters that Karzai needs to keep his job.

UN officials who have read the bill say it denies married Shia women the right to refuse sex unless they are ill and prevents them from working, going to school, visiting the doctor, or even leaving their homes without their husbands’ permission. In custody disputes, children would be awarded to fathers or grandfathers. Earlier drafts tried to lower the marriage age for women from 16 to nine but were reportedly deleted after strenuous efforts by Afghan women parliamentarians.

Some argue that, whatever law emerges, we have to respect traditional Afghan values. Would that hold if it were Jews who were being confined to their homes, or blacks prohibited from going to school? Restrictive dress codes, sexist rituals, inequality in the job market: these have been struggles for women in every culture and can only be resolved within those cultures. But forcing unwilling women to have sex, and imprisoning them in their homes constitutes abuse — anywhere.

In pursuit of this emerging gospel of non-interference, U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Clinton has been urging talks with “moderate” Taliban. This is an admirably pragmatic, non-imperialistic attempt to accelerate the diplomacy that offers the only resolution to this conflict. But it requires there to be “moderate” Taliban; it rests on the belief that the law Karzai signed is the last gasp of a declining thugocracy, not mainstream opinion in much of rural Afghanistan.

Meanwhile, the Independent newspaper reports that Taliban elements negotiating privately with Karzai have softened their position on beards and burkas. They are prepared, says the paper, “to commit themselves to refraining from banning girls’ education, beating up taxi drivers for playing Bollywood music, or measuring the length of men’s beards.” Burkas would be “strongly recommended” but not compulsory.

This is hardly a ringing endorsement of equality and is further undermined by reports from the Swat Valley, in northern Pakistan, an area recently ceded to so-called “moderate” Taliban. The dress code is back, girls’ schools have been menaced, there are public floggings and liberals are fleeing.

There is only so much that well-meaning, well-funded, outsiders can do if the dominant culture is irremediably tyrannical. As this realization dawns, public opinion will dictate our next move: out of Afghanistan.

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Your morning news

April 3, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin 1 Comment

Contrast this:

North Dakota, with its deeply rooted conservative politics and piety, may soon pass the most radical anti-abortion legislation in the United States.

In the next few days, the state Senate will vote on a “personhood bill” that would declare a fertilized egg a human being. If passed, it would apply all criminal laws now on the books – from murder to assault and prohibitions on slavery – to an embryo or a fetus. The law would also likely end in-vitro fertilization and embryonic stem-cell research in the state.

with this:

WASHINGTON — U.S. President Barack Obama on Friday will lift restrictions on U.S. government funding for groups that provide abortion services or counseling abroad, reversing a policy of his Republican predecessor George W. Bush, an administration official said.

“It will be today. He’s going to make an executive order [lifting the global gag rule],” the official said.

The Democratic president’s decision is a victory for advocates of abortion rights on an issue that in recent years has become a tit-for-tat policy change each time the White House shifts from one party to the other.

I remain far from convinced that outlawing abortion is the way to go. If I had my druthers, we wouldn’t need a law stating that the fetus is a person the same way we don’t need one stating that women are persons too. (Though on the other hand, it did take a fair bit of legal wrangling to get to where we are. This is one of those cases where I’m sorry I don’t have a third hand.) But that’s not what bugs me.

What I find irritating beyond words is the way those stories start. Where, in the story about President Obama lifting funding restrictions do they talk about his entrenched belief that abortion is exclusively a “woman’s right”, which in my mind at least is a lot weirder than a belief (rooted in religion or otherwise) that a human embryo is a human person in development?

Just asking.

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Andrea adds: It takes a science text book to see an embryo as the very first stage in human life. It takes…ideology, leaps in logic and a sustained attack against those medical texts to view abortion as a woman’s right. People can and do choose their views on this topic. But that being pro-life is somehow viewed as extreme is very, very strange to me.

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News you need

April 2, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin 5 Comments

Hey, who doesn’t like a good mammoth fighter?

A study has also found the length of women’s hemlines reflect the times.

“In a boom the hemline was likely to rise, but in a recession the hemline was likely to fall,” Mr Salt said.

And as women lower the hemlines, their preferences for men change too.

“The recession will see the demise of the metrosexual,” Mr Salt said.

“In a boom, women are not worried about their financial security and are attracted to attractive, slim, weedy, geeky, metrosexual hairless males,” he said.

“Whereas in a downturn, evolutionary theory kicks in for survival, and women are concerned about their food supply and look for someone a little more muscular, more primal, a little more hairy.

“They want someone who can fight off a mammoth – and a metrosexual ain’t gonna do it.”

[via Maclean’s]

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Tanya adds: Wow… So I was way off base when I suggested we release the men’s PET-P shirts in pink and lavender. Grey was a good choice after all! (I’ll never second-guess you again, Brigitte.)

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A horrible book

April 2, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin 2 Comments

There have already been really good reviews of Ezra Levant’s Shakedown: How Our Government Is Undermining Democracy in the Name of Human Rights (see here, here, and here). So I will keep mine short if not sweet: I’m sorry Ezra, but your book is horrible.

Oh, it’s well written, sure. It’s also very well researched, yes. It tells the story from point A to points B and beyond in a clear, orderly manner. But you see, that’s my problem: Your story is a horrible one.

How we got to the point where the state routinely prosecutes people for their opinions is something I have a lot of trouble understanding. Part of me desperately wants to avoid noticing it. But Ezra’s book forces me to.

The serious problems he outlines don’t just concern a few religious guys who express themselves clumsily and professional talking heads like Ezra and Mark Steyn (who seems happy to describe himself in the foreword as “a blowhard, a loudmouth, a self-promoter, a ‘controversy entrepreneur’, etc”). No. It concerns you as well.

If you (yes, you, Mr. and Mrs. NormalPerson, you personally) accept that the state has any business prosecuting anyone for his or her non-PC opinions, you will have no protection and no defence when the state decides your opinions, no matter how “normal” you believe them to be, have become non grata. And unfortunately, given the way these things normally work, if you don’t speak up, you are deemed to have accepted this kind of systematic state censorship done in your name, using your money.

So please. Start by reading Ezra’s book (you can order it from Amazon, here), and speak up. Every chance you get. Ezra’s horrible story concerns us all.

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Women are no delicate flowers – so says this feminist

April 1, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin 7 Comments

Kirsten Powers writes:

NARAL claims that crisis pregnancy centers — which exist to dissuade women from having an abortion — mislead woman. In New York, abortion rights groups lobbied Attorney General Eliot Spitzer to shut down such centers because they allegedly “scared” women.

As a life-long feminist, I find this approach by so-called women’s rights groups perplexing and more than a little insulting to women.

What really seems to enrage NARAL and Planned Parenthood is when crisis pregnancy centers use ultra-sound devices, or other methods, to show women pictures of their fetuses. To say that this is a “scare tactic” would be like saying it is a “scare tactic” to show a man a picture of clogged arteries to try to get him to understand his health situation. Yes, it may scare him in a certain direction — or not — but it’s an informed decision.

If a woman is seven weeks pregnant and someone shows her this picture, what is wrong with that? How is that “scary”?

Women are not delicate little flowers who can’t handle information, despite what NARAL Pro Choice and Planned Parenthood tell us. They should have the option of having all the information presented to them before an abortion so they understand what they are doing.

[…] as a person who cares about women’s rights, I would be enormously pleased if the people who claim to be “pro-choice” would embrace a wider array of choices for women dealing with unwanted pregnancies, rather than trying to bully any organization offering abortion alternatives out of existence.

Right on.

[h/t]

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Rebecca adds: This reminds me of the never ending argument about parental notification laws. We’re supposed to believe that teenagers must have access to abortion, because they’re too immature to be good mothers, they can’t possibly understand the ramifications of becoming a mother, and they’re not grown up enough to raise a baby. At the same time, they must have the absolute autonomy to choose abortion without their parents even knowing, let alone giving consent, because they are mature enough to know what’s right for them, nobody should be able to influence their decision without their say-so, and the life-long implications of having an abortion will be readily explained to them at the clinic and completely grasped in the ten minute discussion they’ll have before the procedure.

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Beg your pardon?

March 31, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin 3 Comments

Here’s hoping this is a big giant misunderstanding:

OTTAWA — Canadian officials contacted the Afghan government Tuesday to express concern about controversial new legislation that would reportedly allow men to rape their wives.

The Canadian government reacted with outrage following reports that the Karzai administration has approved a wide-ranging family law for the country’s Shia minority.

Various reports say the legislation would make it illegal for Shia women to refuse their husbands sex, leave the house without their permission, or have custody of children.

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As long as we all stay classy…

March 31, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin Leave a Comment

Received today this email from SBA List:

Washington, D.C. – Today the president of the Susan B. Anthony List commented on radical pro-abortion activist Dawn Johnsen, whose nomination was voted out of the Senate Judiciary Committee and currently awaits a floor vote.

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While Johnsen served as the legal counsel for National Abortion & Reproductive Rights Action League (now NARAL Pro-Choice America), she authored numerous legal opinions rejecting any and all restrictions on abortion. Some notable quotes from Johnsen’s amicus curiae brief in the case Webster v. Reproductive Health Services include

“Abortion restrictions ‘reduce pregnant women to no more than fetal containers.’”

“The argument that women who become pregnant have in some sense consented to the pregnancy belies reality…and others who are the inevitable losers in the contraceptive lottery no more ‘consent’ to pregnancy than pedestrians ‘consent’ to being struck by drunk drivers.”

“The experience [of abortion] is no longer traumatic; the response of most women to the experience is relief.”

Johnsen awaits a floor vote by the full U.S. Senate to gain confirmation to head the Office of Legal Counsel.

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A new woman’s voice

March 31, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin Leave a Comment

A letter in today’s Ottawa Citizen:

Re: The abortion trap, March 28.

Yes, columnist Leonard Stern, abortion is a trap for women and for unborn children, too. I was trapped into believing the lies that abortion was a quick fix and just a “clump of tissue.” I was trapped by my parents and boyfriend to abort.

There is a new and growing voice on this issue and it is women like me who deeply regret their abortions, have great sorrow and have been damaged physically, emotionally and spiritually.

We are pro-woman and pro-life and know that aborting your baby should be unthinkable! We urge politicians and doctors to stop abortion as a form of birth control. It is really child sacrifice; and not a medical necessity.

Many studies confirm that abortion causes depression, substance abuse, suicides, pre-term births in subsequent pregnancies, miscarriages, infertility and breast and cervical cancers.

We were not informed about fetal development and did not know our babies had a beating heart by three weeks and arms, legs, fingers and toes by eight weeks. Abortion is a wrong, and not a right.

The choice must be made on who, when, where and why to have sex with someone — pregnancy is a natural outcome of that intimacy. Childbirth is the healthy and natural choice.

Denise Mountenay,

Morinville, Alberta

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Andrea compares and contrasts with this: This blog post “Simple answers to simple questions” (from simple minds?) says:

Insofar as “pro-life” is generally just a euphemism for someone who supports forced childbirth, the answer is no.  There is no such thing as a “pro-life” feminist, anymore than there’s such thing as a pro-genocide pacifist.

“My body, my choice.” Very much entrenched. And if you say “but it’s not your body,” they’ll still refer you to point A–“My body, my choice.” It’s like talking to programmed drones.

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For busy parents…

March 31, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin 6 Comments

Hey, Véronique and Patricia, have you tried this?

In the consensual living model, father doesn’t know best. Neither does mom. Instead, parents and children are equal partners in family life, according to the principles laid out at consensual-living.com.

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Consensual living 101

Core principles

Everyone’s wants and needs are equally valid, regardless of age.

Children can be trusted to know their own minds and bodies.

Punishments and rewards are tools of manipulation, unneeded when family members work as a team.

There is a creative solution that works for everyone.

Each family member has a positive intent and desires harmony.

When all are secure that their needs will be met, they will branch out and help others meet their needs.

I’m no fan of draconian and inflexible discipline. But come on. If families had to live with the ‘equally valid’ wants and needs of every two-year-old, methinks they wouldn’t get anything done at all. Thoughts?

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Andrea adds: My completely adorable little niece sometimes responds with a very strong “I know” as if to put you in your place. My sister and I were laughing over this one day–and concluded that actually, there are some things she doesn’t know–like the other 23 letters of the alphabet, for starters…

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Rebecca says: I hope I’m never trapped on a trans-Atlantic flight beside this kind of family.

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Patricia adds: I was going to blog on this yesterday, but I was too busy validating the needs and wants of my five children simultaneously. Sadly, the end result was my being sedated by the local SWAT team.

Would say more but have to go explain to my youngest why she can’t spend all day, every day watching an endless loop of “The Lonely Goatherd” from our Sound of Music DVD. Or maybe she can, as that particular desire of hers is apparently as valid as my desire, some might even say, need, to go out and get some groceries.

And I think that’s enough said about that particular style of parenting.

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Andrea doesn’t mean to question Patricia’s parenting but what is so wrong with watching part–or all–of the Sound of Music on repeat? What could be wrong with wanting to be a nun, so that you can get kicked out of the abbey, and end up governess for a very handsome sea captain’s children? After a critical moment of harrowing indecision, you leave the captain to go into seclusion, back at the abbey, to ponder your options. Meanwhile, the captain’s girlfriend decides to pack her little bags and go back to Vienna, where she belongs, thereby allowing you to return and face the problem of your illicit relationship with said very handsome captain. No, I’d say there’s nothing wrong with watching too much Sound of Music. Didn’t do me any harm, anyways, says the 32-year-old single gal in the crowd.

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Wow, that’s, like, totally hilarious!

March 31, 2009 by Brigitte Pellerin 4 Comments

Put it this way: I wouldn’t find it cute.

Ashton Kutcher keeps playing tricks on wife Demi Moore by secretly changing the TV channel to porn.

The star – famed for his practical jokes on TV show Punk’d – can access his home television from his computer and has been swapping Demi’s favourite programmes to X-rated movies.

He wrote on social networking website Twitter: “u can change your home tv from your computer. it’s a fun prank 2 play on someone if u know they r watching. keep switching the tv 2 porn (sic).”

Call me a crusty old goat all you like, but I do not find this romantic at all.

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